My Grandmother’s Kitchen

I’ve been thinking about my grandmother’s kitchen. My first grandchild is 10 weeks old. He spent the afternoon with me yesterday. For the first time, he didn’t want me to put him down. Other than during a few minutes of tummy time and a walk in the stroller, he fussed every minute he wasn’t asleep unless I carried him around.

I remember being able to do most household tasks with a baby in hand, but it’s been a long time since I used that skill. Nonetheless, we managed to water the plants, fix his bottles, and take clothes out of the dryer without benefit of a baby carrier. I didn’t attempt cooking. We´ll save that for later.

recipe boxMy grandmother never seemed to miss a beat whether or not we were around. She made play dough for us using flour, water, salt, and food coloring and let us use her cookie cutters to cut it into shapes at the kitchen table. If we behaved, she’d offer us an oatmeal cookie or ginger snap from her ever full cookie jar. (Speaking of, we always behaved because when she stomped her foot in irritation, we knew she meant business and stopped all shenanigans immediately.) She made lunch and dinner with us underfoot sending us to the refrigerator to fetch whatever she needed.

When I was 8 or 9, GranGran started teaching me how to cook. I was already reading recipes and baking at home, but my grandmother rarely used recipes. Or at least, she rarely pulled a recipe card out of the box. She may have had them all memorized. Her beef and noodles always tasted the same whether she used a recipe or not.

I loved being in my grandmother´s kitchen and I love reminders of it today. I recently went through the recipes in my mother’s kitchen and found recipe cards in my grandmother´s handwriting. On these cards, there’s no list of ingredients at the top. Instead, they appear as you add them to the mix. It’s like each recipe was dictated by the cook who was making the dish and someone wrote it down. I find this charming.

The recipes are much like my grandmother — simple, to the point, and easy to understand. Here´s one I found:

Porcupine Meatballs (Serves 4)

Mix 1/4 cup Campbell’s tomato soup with 1 lb. ground beef, 1/4 cup uncooked rice, 1 egg (slightly beaten), 1/4 cup minced onion, 2 tbsp minced parsley, 1 tsp salt.

Shape into balls about 1 1/2″ in diameter. Brown in 2 tbsp shortening with one small minced clove garlic in large skillet.

Blend in rest of can of soup and 1 cup water.

Simmer about 40 minutes or until rice is tender stirring now and then.

Now, I can´t vouch for the results of this recipe. I haven’t had a chance to try it yet. That pipsqueak of a grandson of mine thinks I should hold him instead.

Perhaps you could try it for me and let me know what you think!

Responsiveness Matters to All of Us

When your request is the one being ignored, do you feel responsiveness matters?
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In this day of electronic devices, it´s easier than ever to ignore a message. It´s easy to believe that no response is efficient and acceptable. If we´re experts in a particular area, it´s easy to ignore what we believe to be ignorant questions.

How does an accumulating attitude of acceptable dismissal affect all of us?

Obviously, this is a large topic so I´ll just have to hold it to a few high points or be dismissed myself. That´s okay. My hope is that we all come away with more awareness and the willingness to examine our feelings and behaviors so that we can then choose the level of responsiveness we hope to contribute to our relationships with our spouses, children, extended family, bosses, coworkers, customers, as well as corporate behemoths, the sick, the distressed, and the suffering we encounter.

The World Health Organization lists responsiveness as one of the 3 areas of focus for its goals for health systems. This makes sense given that:
1)When a healthcare system fails to be responsive to patients, it often results in higher mortality rates.1
2) Patient surveys rate doctors higher when the treating physician is perceived as empathetic. It is hard to be perceived as empathetic if you are not responsive.2
3)Frustration at a lack of response leads to nursing home falls, higher stress levels, and diminished trust – none of which are conducive to healing.

Similarly, frustration at a lack of response has fueled the anger of many African-Americans toward law enforcement. You can view the pain, suffering, and violence that have resulted almost daily on the news.

Eric Holtzclaw noted in an article entitled, ¨The Importance of Responsiveness¨, which appeared in Inc. Magazine, ¨A lack of responsiveness is the most common underlying problem I find at the businesses I work with that are experiencing issues achieving growth.¨ 3 Not only can a lack of responsiveness prevent business growth, it can cause a loss of customers. How many of you have left Comcast, AT&T, or Windstream as soon as you had another option due to a lack of response to your specific problems with their service?

Failing to respond is probably one of the fastest ways to get sued when you get crossways over quality of service, fulfillment of a contract, or payment of a bill. Speaking of, sending a non responsive email is no more effective at preventing a lawsuit than no response at all. It may, in fact, accelerate the process by escalating a feeling of conflict or dismissal.

All of us want to be validated and acknowledged. Babies learn about themselves through the mimicking of their facial expressions by a responsive caregiver. They also learn trust and the concept of having some control over their circumstances when the caregiver responds to their cues.

And according to a post on Psychology Today originally written for the website Science of Relationships, the best life partner is one who is responsive. ¨A responsive partner is someone who makes you feel understood, validated, and cared for.¨ 4,5,6 Sounds right to me. If a partner has that quality, then everything else is going to be easier to negotiate.

From our very beginning, responsiveness shapes our perception of who we are and how we fit in the world. It then affects our health, our safety, our trust level, our career success, and our satisfaction with our partners. Can changing our level of responsiveness make a difference in the world?

Why not? It seems obvious that responsiveness matters to all of us!

References:
1)http://www.who.int/responsiveness/en/
http://www.who.int/healthinfo/paper32.pdf
2)http://www.arkansasonline.com/news/2016/aug/21/doctors-kindness-matters-to-patients-20/?f=opinion
3)http://www.inc.com/eric-holtzclaw/the-importance-of-responsiveness.html
4)https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/dating-decisions/201307/the-most-important-quality-you-can-find-in-partner
5) Reis, H. T., Clark, M. S., & Holmes, J. G. (2004). Perceived partner responsiveness as an organizing construct in the study of intimacy and closeness. In D. J. Mashek & A. P. Aron (Eds.), Handbook of closeness and intimacy (pp. 201-225). Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum.
6) Maisel, N. C., Gable, S. L., & Strachman, A. (2008). Responsive behaviors in good times and bad. Personal Relationships, 15, 317-338.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I have not received any compensation for writing this post. I have no material connection to the brands, products, or services that I have mentioned. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Gluten Intolerant? Beware Dandelion Coffee.

coffeeGluten Intolerant? Beware Dandelion Coffee. Okay, that may be a little dramatic, but my dad believed dandelions were an absolute scourge. I grew up bewaring them. Like all kids, I wanted to grab a stem topped with a fluffy seed ball and blow. If I did, I’d better do it in someone else’s lawn or there would be hell to pay.

Dandelion coffee sounds as appealing as those fluffy seed balls. It’s herbal. It has no caffeine. It’s popular where all the cool people live. Some would even say it has liver cleansing properties. Roasted dandelion root tastes a bit like coffee and when brewed with chicory has a pleasant sweetness rather than an acidic or bitter aftertaste. What’s not to like?
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Sometimes there’s everything to like, but for those of us with Celiac Disease or gluten intolerance, sometimes there are just too many goodies included. Dandelion coffee is often brewed with barley and rye in addition to chicory root and sugar beets. If you order a dandelion latte in a restaurant, it’s worth checking the ingredients before beginning to sip. If you buy a packaged blend, be sure to read the label.

If you can’t find the perfect blend, you can make your own dandelion coffee. Dandelion roots are best harvested in late fall, winter, or early spring and will produce a more coffee-like flavor when cleaned, chopped, dried, roasted and ground. If you don’t want to dig your own when you’re maintaining the lawn, you can also order the roots from sites like this: https://www.mountainroseherbs.com/products/dandelion-root-roasted/profile. You can add anything you want to your brew. Some popular ingredients are chicory root, cinnamon sticks, and cacao nibs.

While there’s no caffeine in dandelion coffee, the large dose of vitamin B it provides has been reported to perk you up much like a shot of espresso. While I haven’t experienced this, I once accidentally drank too much passion tea in one day and had to take a 5 hour nap. I wasn’t thinking of it as herbal medicine. I just drank it because it tasted refreshing in the summer served over ice. When I started feeling really tired and grumpy and weird, I discovered passionflower had once been approved as an OTC sedative and sleep aid in the US. Hmmm, who knew?

Anyway, I’m willing to believe that dandelion coffee may perk you up when you least expect it. I know those dandelions. They’re sneaky. One day they look like a pretty yellow flower, the next a dangerous ball of seeds that will ruin your father’s yard.
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Eat the greens, pickle the buds, fry the blooms, make some wine if you dare. Just keep in mind when it comes to the coffee, sometimes it’s best to beware.

https://www.mountainroseherbs.com/products/herbal-coffee/profile

https://www.eatweeds.co.uk/dandelion-root-coffee-recipe

http://www.almanac.com/content/dandelion-recipes-wonderful-edible-weed

http://umm.edu/health/medical/altmed/herb/dandelion

http://www.webmd.com/vitamins-supplements/ingredientmono-871-passionflower.aspx?activeingredientid=871

My Top Five Gluten-Free Summer Snacks for 2016

asparagusHere’s a list of my top five gluten-free summer snacks for 2016. I don’t know about you, but I am a snacker. If I don’t eat a little something every three hours, I begin to feel bad. Three hours isn’t really enough time in between meals so snacking seems like a good solution to keep me feeling great all day!

Of course there are a million snacks available so sometimes it’s hard to know what to choose. I’ve already picked my favorites for this summer. Perhaps you’d like to try them out too:

Number 5: Medjool Dates
These dates are large, soft, and incredibly sweet. Each date has approximately 66 calories,4 grams of protein, 18 grams of carbohydrates, and 1.6 grams of dietary fiber. These dates also contain Vitamins A, K, Niacin, Folate, Pantothenic Acid, Choline, and Betaine along with Calcium, Iron, Magnesium, Phosphorus, Potassium, Sodium, Zinc, Copper, and Manganese.

Number 4: Raw Cashews
I love raw cashews. They have a subtle flavor that borders on sweetness. The crunch is good, but softer than that of almonds or peanuts. One ounce of cashews has 155 calories, 5.1 grams of protein, 12 grams of fat, 9 grams of carbohydrates and 1 gram of dietary fiber. Cashews contain Vitamins C, E, K, Thiamin, Niacin, B6, Folate, and Pantothenic Acid along with Calcium, Iron, Magnesium, Phosphorus, Potassium, Sodium, Zinc, Copper, Manganese, and Selenium. The amount of Magnesium, Phosphorus, and Manganese range from 17 to 23% of the recommended daily allowance for these minerals.

Dried fruit and nuts are great snacks that require no refrigeration, preparation, or fancy packaging.

Number 3: Chilled Asparagus Spears
When I eat asparagus hot, I prefer thin spears, but often those aren’t available. Luckily, I prefer thicker spears when I eat them chilled. I lightly steam the spears until they’re firm, not crunchy. Then I sprinkle on some lemon pepper and salt or lightly salt and squeeze some lemon juice over them. Other times, I just salt the steamed spears and put them in the refrigerator. One cup of asparagus has 32 calories, 5 grams of protein, 3 carbohydrates, and 3 grams of dietary fiber. It also gives you 73% of the RDA of Vitamin C, 29% of the RDA of Vitamin A, plus calcium and iron along with Vitamins E, K, Thiamin, Riboflavin, Niacin, 61% of the RDA of Folate, Pantothenic Acid, Choline, and Betaine.

Number 2: Ice Cold Honeydew Melon
When it’s really hot outside, an ice cold honeydew quickly quenches your thirst and cools you down. It’s lightly sweet and surprisingly filling. One cup of honeydew has 64 calories, 1 gram of protein, 16 grams of carbohydrates, and 1 gram of dietary fiber. It also contains 53% of the RDA of Vitamin C plus Vitamin A, Calcium, and Iron along with Vitamin K, Thiamin, Niacin, B6, Folate, Pantothenic Acid, and Choline.

Number 1: Cooking2Thrive Dorm Room No Bake Cookies

You didn’t think I’d only choose healthy snacks did you? While these cookies have added sugar, they also contain peanut butter, oatmeal, and dark chocolate which add nutritional value and antioxidants. Two cookies contain 208 calories, 4.37 grams of protein, 12.27 grams of fat, 22.09 grams of carbohydrates, and 2.8 grams of dietary fiber. These cookies take less than 10 minutes to make and they’re chocolate. Need I say more?

Next year may be different, but in 2016 when the hot sun blazes and humidity hovers, I’ll be feasting on these 5 favorite gluten-free snacks. Yummy!