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Sometimes when we need external support, it doesn\u2019t show up and we have to rely on internal resources. Obviously, if we\u2019ve reached the point of asking for help, we may not be in the best position to grab those bootstraps and tug. What can help when we\u2019re in a tight spot?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of us is an individual. What works for me may not work as well for you, but it doesn\u2019t hurt to try different things. And the best time to build internal resources is when we don\u2019t need them. That way, we have a store to pull from when necessity dictates.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Here are a few things to try:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Music<\/strong> \u2013 Create a playlist of tunes that inspire you. Make another that let\u2019s you process sadness. Another could help you scream out some rage. Keep them handy for the moments you need them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Books<\/strong> \u2013 If there are books that help distract you, make you laugh, or just make you feel less alone, make sure to carry them with you when you\u2019re headed for a tough situation. Also, try picture books. Many are reassuring, soothing, or silly. They can hit just the right note even if you\u2019re technically past the target age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Volunteer<\/strong>\u2013 For whatever reason, helping someone else can be the best way to help yourself. Even when you feel like you can\u2019t possibly handle another burden, what you may find is understanding and gratitude that feeds your spirit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Play<\/strong> \u2013 Grab a swing at the park and see how high you can go. Swing a golf club at the driving range. Swim, bike, run. Fly a kite. Play chess. Choose something that makes you feel competent, good, or carefree and lean in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Binge Watch<\/strong> \u2013 Like books, video can offer a sense of catharsis. It may also provide characters that help you feel protected or understood. It\u2019s also a great distraction that can also help ease you into conversations with other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get Out In Nature<\/strong> \u2013 Listen to the surf hitting the beach. Find a waterfall. Ride horses. Photograph the sunset or sunrise. Walk in the rain without a raincoat. Plant something. Reminding yourself of the reliability of sunrise and sunset can feel calming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice Gratitude<\/strong> \u2013 The very best time to practice gratitude is when you\u2019re having trouble feeling it. And when things are tough, you may not be feeling grateful. Making lists will refocus your energy and it can be healing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Journal<\/strong> \u2013 Write it out. It\u2019s not the same as talking to someone, but sometimes writing allows you to express things you would otherwise censor. Who knows, you may discover a love for writing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Complete a Project<\/strong> \u2013 If you\u2019re physically able, completing a project you\u2019ve been avoiding can be just the thing to make you feel able and strong. If you begin and discover it\u2019s too much, it\u2019s okay. Stop and try something different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Find or Make a Reminder<\/strong> \u2013 Think back to a time when you had sufficient energy to take on a challenge. Choose a symbolic reminder of that time that you can wear or see frequently. See if you can feel a bit of that energy each time you look at the symbol.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes it\u2019s hard to know why something makes us feel good. To build internal resources, it\u2019s not important to analyze why. The idea is just to build the good feelings. I recently joined a friend spur of the moment for food, a band, and a lecture by a sculptor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The menu was not friendly for me so I was skeptical when we first arrived, but when the band started, I felt a rush of happiness and enjoyment. I soaked in every minute. It was great and I was so glad I agreed to go. I\u2019ve banked that moment so that I can reach the feeling when I need it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If, like me, you have a tendency to go it alone most of the time, it can be good to resist that temptation. We all need comfort and support. We will all also have times when the only person who will show up for us is us. That\u2019s when internal resources can be life savers.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sometimes when we need external support, it doesn\u2019t show up and we have to rely on internal resources. Obviously, if we\u2019ve reached the point of asking for help, we may not be in the best position to grab those bootstraps and tug. What can help when we\u2019re in a tight spot? Each of us is … Continue reading “Internal Resources”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14,12],"tags":[919,3562,3561,3560,3559],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5474"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5474"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5474\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5477,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5474\/revisions\/5477"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5474"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5474"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5474"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}