{"id":4942,"date":"2022-09-06T12:13:15","date_gmt":"2022-09-06T17:13:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/?p=4942"},"modified":"2022-09-06T12:13:16","modified_gmt":"2022-09-06T17:13:16","slug":"change-of-venue-or-change-of-view","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/change-of-venue-or-change-of-view\/","title":{"rendered":"Change of Venue or Change of View"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

How do you know if you need a\nchange of venue or a change of view? When things aren\u2019t feeling good at home, at\nyour job, with your fitness routine, or in the kitchen it can be tempting to cast\nout the old, uproot yourself, and make a huge change. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This may be appropriate. If your\nneighborhood has become dangerous, it could be wise to move. If your job has\nnever made you happy or you see no way to advance, it could be wise to change to\na whole different career. If your fitness routine doesn\u2019t improve your\nendurance, strength, or flexibility or doesn\u2019t leave you feeling calmer or more\nbalanced, maybe you do need a new fancy piece of equipment. If you find\nyourself reaching for junk food, maybe you need a new stove.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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But big changes can come with big\ncosts, huge stakes, and may or may not take care of the problem. Any big change\nwill be a distraction for a while. The question is whether that change will\ndirectly result in improving whatever it is that\u2019s causing you discomfort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes a need for change is\nobvious. When I was learning to fly, my first instructor screamed at me pretty\nmuch from the time we turned final until we were on the ground each and every\nlanding. It quickly became clear that he was not the best instructor for me. I\nneeded calm confidence behind the other controls. Once I had that, I could\nrelax and improve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At other times, it is harder to\ndetermine whether I need to change something external or change my internal\nview. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve been called a risk taker\nbecause I started a business when I was a single mom not receiving regular\nchild support. I\u2019ve been called a risk taker because I sold a successful\nbusiness to pursue another path entirely. I\u2019ve been called a risk taker because\nI learned to fly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But if you know me well, you know\nI\u2019m not really a risk taker. I am a careful student who learns as much as I\ncan, weighs each outcome I can envision, and then decides what to do. At times\nthat has meant changing pretty much every external thing in my life all at once.\nAt other times, it has meant staying on a path when the timing didn\u2019t pan out\nas expected. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

To a casual observer, my\ndecisions may look rash or erratic. To the impatient, I could appear\nindecisive. To the conservative, I can look like a rebel. And to the impulsive,\nI can feel like an anchor. But the results are decisions I feel confident in\nand comfortable with. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So how do I get there?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I begin by identifying the\nfundamental problem I\u2019m trying to solve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I\u2019ve identified the problem,\nI look for possible simple solutions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The simplest solution can be to\nchange the way I view something. But that can be the most difficult\nemotionally. For example, it may be hard to give up a childhood wish for a\nhouse with the perfect lap pool located on a tree-lined street even though it doesn\u2019t\nmeet any more needs than living in my current home with its ample back yard and\nswimming at the rec center. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When my children were young, I wanted\nto pursue a PhD. I wasn\u2019t happy with my job and I\u2019d always wanted a PhD. First,\nI\u2019d need a Masters. I explored degree programs, looked at course offerings and\nschedules, and investigated financial aid. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The financial reality was that I\nwould have to work full time and go to school in the evening. There were course\nofferings that would allow that. I would qualify for financial aid. I just\nneeded to find someone to watch the kids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I could get the degree I wanted plus\nI\u2019d be eligible for more jobs. But I\u2019d already taught a Freshman Comp course at\na community college and determined I hated teaching. I decided I might want to\nbe a therapist, so I looked at PsyD programs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I got to the point of\nfinding someone to watch the children, I realized how little I would see\nthem\u2026for years. At that point, I decided it wasn\u2019t worth it to me to pursue the\ndegree. Instead, I could find a different job using the BA and experience I\nalready had.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eventually, that lead to starting\nmy first business where I was the only salesperson. I spent hours listening to\nclients and learning their stories. This satisfied the part of me that would\nhave enjoyed being a therapist. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I didn\u2019t go from having a dream\nto finding an adequate substitute for the underlying need in a straight line,\nbut over time that\u2019s exactly what happened. And I was able to avoid the regret\nI knew I would feel missing out on time with my kids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether the simplest solution is\na change in my view of the situation or a change in external circumstances, I\nimplement small improvements I can as quickly and inexpensively as I can. Sometimes,\nthat\u2019s all that\u2019s required. A simple solution provides an adequate change. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If a simple solution doesn\u2019t feel\nsufficient after a period of time, I move to the next simple step. Once I run\nout of simple ideas, I begin to look at larger changes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Slowly implementing change gives\nme a chance to let go of desires that feel compelling in a moment but less\nimportant later. It also means that I am less likely to feel overwhelmed. Along\nthe way, I have the opportunity to shift my point of view and see if it makes a\ndifference.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You know how it sometimes feels\nlike we just fell into the right thing? Intentionally implementing small\nimprovements until everything feels right often feels that way. And a change of\nvenue may not be required at all.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

How do you know if you need a change of venue or a change of view? When things aren\u2019t feeling good at home, at your job, with your fitness routine, or in the kitchen it can be tempting to cast out the old, uproot yourself, and make a huge change. This may be appropriate. If … Continue reading “Change of Venue or Change of View”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[12,792,9],"tags":[3261,3263,3264,3262,1153],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4942"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4942"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4942\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4945,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4942\/revisions\/4945"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4942"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4942"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4942"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}