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\nHere’s today’s process:<\/em><\/p>\n
I am grateful the rain has stopped.<\/strong> My roof is leaking. I filed an insurance claim two weeks ago, but due to a delay by my agent and then another by the insuring company, an adjuster won’t show up until tomorrow. During those two weeks, wind gusts carried away a whole section of shingles and yesterday it began to rain.<\/p>\n I am grateful that the roof leak is small.<\/strong> The pitch of my roof is very steep so most of the water runs right off. I’ve been able to catch the drips that make it inside in a plastic tub lined with towels. <\/p>\n I am grateful I woke up early.<\/strong> Instead of trying to convince myself to go back to sleep, I made my way downstairs to discover the sound of running water. I followed my ears to the closet that contains my water heater. A pipe is leaking. Water was just beginning to pool. If I had waited until my alarm sounded, I would have had a flooded floor. Instead, I’ll just have a cold shower.<\/p>\n I am grateful I finally found an engineer<\/strong> who may be able to help with the flooding of my office building. The first 12 years I owned that building, the French drain was adequate. Now it floods often. The experts have determined the drain is clear and adding another would not help. What they haven’t determined is what will help. I’m hopeful that this new engineer will have the magic potion.<\/p>\n There seems to be a water theme here. How can that come as a surprise? When it rains, it pours, right? But wait, there’s more! That’s good because I’m not really feeling better yet.<\/em><\/p>\n I am grateful I haven’t contracted the stomach virus<\/strong> my son’s family is passing around. Even if I eventually get it, I appreciate the fact that I am not fighting floods while fighting a virus.<\/p>\n I am grateful I have power at my house.<\/strong> Thousands in my state do not because of the storms. <\/p>\n I’m grateful for all of those reusable grocery bags<\/strong> I found cleaning out the water heater closet. I didn’t realize I had so many size options.<\/p>\n I’m grateful I don’t have to do the dishes for a few hours.<\/strong> I tested some recipes and have a few pans that have to be hand washed. I don’t love that task so taking it off the list for awhile makes me happy.<\/p>\n Awww, a glimpse of feeling good!<\/em><\/p>\n I’m grateful I tested those recipes because that means there’s food in the refrigerator.<\/strong> I don’t have to think about what I’m going to eat today. All I have to do is reach, reheat, eat!<\/p>\n This makes me feel more secure. Yeah, my association of food availability and a feeling of security is a long story for another day. Suffice it to say I’m painfully aware of the connection. That old grief is not all I feel. I have a load of grief and loss from current events as well. Finding the time and space to process it fully and still meet my obligations is a difficult balancing act. Especially when there are floods to clean up.<\/p>\n So, I’m grateful to understand that I am carrying grief<\/strong>. This is good information because grief often manifests as anxiety which I feel as a pain in my stomach. Knowing the difference allows me to heal my stomach, my spirit, and my psyche.<\/p>\n I’m not alone in experiencing grief as anxiety. Some also experience it as depression or sleep problems. Max Strom has a whole Ted Talk on breathing & healing in which he states that a vast number of us have a grief problem masquerading as anxiety or panic.<\/p>\n When I can reach the feeling of grief that is lurking, I also immediately feel more grounded, centered, and calm. The “bad” brings with it the good. I am no longer willfully focussing on positive. It just appears in my awareness.<\/p>\n That allows me to relax the steeled posture I previously described. I can focus on my breath rather than holding it. This is a great beginning point!<\/em><\/p>\n There is much to process. In the moment, grief can feel like slogging in mud with unexpected waves of water suddenly crashing against you. But looking back, I quickly recognize that feeling grief does not crush me. It frees me.<\/p>\n I believe that eventually I will be free enough to revel in joy and I am grateful to be on that path. <\/p>\n https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=4Lb5L-VEm34<\/a><\/p>\n https:\/\/maxstrom.com\/<\/a><\/p>\n http:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/im-going-let-thanksgiving-kickoff-new-year-filled-gratitude\/<\/a><\/p>\n http:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/gratitude-is-my-best-defense\/<\/a><\/p>\n http:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/preparation-for-healing-managing-expectations-begins-with-setting-clear-intentions\/<\/a><\/p>\n Today, I am choosing to celebrate the positives! The method I will use is practicing gratitude. Admittedly, I don’t feel like doing this or feel very grateful so I’m using force of will to get started, but I know the process will shift my focus and I’ll soon embrace the better feelings it will create. … Continue reading “Flip the Negatives Around and Celebrate the Positives!”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2538],"tags":[43,2672,371,112,2674,2675,2673,370,2676],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3531"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3531"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3531\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3538,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3531\/revisions\/3538"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3531"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3531"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cooking2thrive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3531"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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\nNow I’ve reached the point where things get real. I still feel sad about the experiences that created that connection. The underlying feeling is grief.<\/em> <\/p>\n
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